Don'T Take The Privacy Of Your Colleagues As A Handle.

　　许多发生在办公室的隐私一直被聪慧敏感的职业女性以一种看似淡漠、实则在意的目光关注着，也许正因为涉及到太多的个人利益、充斥着不为人所知的欲望，隐私也就更容易被当成手中可以利用的王牌，但是否打出这张牌就能成为最终的赢家，却是一道值得白领们仔细斟酌的难题。

    小心加密老板的隐私

Between the successful male boss and the beautiful OFFICE miss, there will always be a free and hazy emotional game.

Can you still keep your silence with a cool sense when you are unknowingly becoming the boss's privacy insider, and prevent the boss who has the power to kill and raise his sword to you?

The beautiful Lisa is a business representative in a large foreign company.

She is a very competent staff, and sales performance is often among the best in the Department, which is appreciated by Lin Yang, the general manager.

So she always looks as proud as a peacock with a head on her head.

Arun is the cashier of this company. She had an unpleasant relationship with Lisa. It was Arun who found out that she had lost 100 yuan in cash when she checked out in a certain class. Arun thought about it for a long time. There were only two expenses on that day: one was the stationery charge which was reported to the administrative department 120 yuan, and the other was to pay Lisa8000 multiple Commission, so Arun asked Lisa whether he paid her 100 yuan more.

Lisa was very upset. She said she had never seen an accountant like Arun. If she could not get enough money, she would find someone else.

Arun's face turned white. If Lin hadn't walked into the office, Arun might cry.

Haughty Lisa did not realize that she had offended people. She did not know that the introverted Arun kept it in mind.

But Arun knew that a small cashier would not be able to get rid of Lisa in any case. After all, millions of sales on Lisa had brought great profits to the company, and Lin Yang was so impressed with her. I heard that she was preparing to upgrade her to be the sales director in the near future.

But Arun discovered the secret of Lisa: Lisa, dressed up and dressed every day after work, was originally with Lin Yang.

With a woman's intuition, Arun felt that there must be something here. Indeed, after several invisible stalking, she succeeded in finding the ambiguous relationship between Lisa and Lin Yang.

She thought she had caught the braid of Lisa. She was so surprised and happy that she kept track of Lisa's whereabouts as usual. Then she toss and turn Lisa's husband's phone call. When she made sure that Lisa was staying with Lin Yang, she asked him to meet at the hotel where she often went to Lin Yang, and spread the "account book" to the stunned man.

Then she smiled and looked at the silly guy who was in the dark with his wife knocking on the door of the room.

The consequences are predictable. Lisa's husband insisted on divorce. When Arun's name flew in the air and went into Lisa's ear, she quickly signed her name in the divorce agreement in anger.

On the third day, the self satisfied Arun also received a notice of dismissal from general manager Lin's signature.

On the day when she packed up, she saw the hatred in Lisa's eyes. She could not help shivering. The cold eyes of two bundled arrows into her heart made it difficult for the Arun to look at the clean and clean office.

Lily had the same fortune with Arun: when Lily learned that his boss often went to the ballroom and looked for a lady's privacy, she released her grievances by refusing to pay her salary. Many indecent modifiers were all thrown on her head by her heart, and her days went to the top of her daily complaints. When the contract expired at the end of the year, she became the only one who didn't renew her contract.

Watching the rest of my colleagues, who not only saved their present job, but also happily paid their salaries, Lily finally realized that he had touched the "blockbuster" blockbuster and destroyed his own future.

Comment:

Several real examples teach us: first, always remember that privacy is a private affair of others rather than yourself, so do not make any judgmental comments; two: do not ask others' privacy; if someone else is talking about privacy, it is better to leave immediately and not to participate.

In this way, you will be less vulnerable than others.

When a smart woman learns about the privacy of her boss and staff, she will cleverly and pretend to avoid it. For example, when she enters the boss's office, she will knock on the door and send out some warning signals when she opens the closed office.

This is no longer superfluous or cruel, but an excellent way to protect oneself.

The embarrassment of being able to expose oneself to other people's privacy can not be ignored.

Arun's failure in the workplace was due to the fact that when he learned about others' privacy, he did not adjust his mentality and sense of balance, but regarded it as a tool to strike the other side and please himself.

As we all know, "silence is always golden", especially when you know that your privacy is your immediate boss, it is even more terrible.

You know, the workplace is not where you stand for justice. If you don't know how to manage your mouth, then you will lose your chance to say a word in the company forever.

    别把同事的隐私当把柄

In a small world where offices seem calm, but the reality is turbulent, the privacy you know unknowingly may be the reason why others hurt you. Or because you are eager to improve the current bad relationship to become a strong member of the inner circle, do you think you are smart enough to use your own privacy?

Only 3 days after entering Cathy, Wu Xiaosha did not think that Monica, who had just returned from his vacation, was sitting in front of himself.

She clearly remembered that half a month ago, she had been beaten black and blue by several people. From the incessant curse of a fierce woman, she knew that Wu Xiaosha was the lover of another husband's husband.

Monica also recognized Cathy, though familiar but not speaking to each other.

The sudden surprise and displeasure on her face made Cathy feel a little strange.

Sure enough, this woman colleague who was called a neighbor was not very helpful to her, and was very unhappy with her. For example, when she was off duty, she would ask Cathy to sort out the documents she needed. At the end of the week, she deliberately dragged the data to Cathy at the end of the week, so that Cathy would be very nervous every time she submitted the report. She would deliberately make some mistakes in her work, then explained to the manager that Cathy did not cooperate with her. She even looked at those who spoke with Cathy, and then put out their conversation in a roundabout way.

Because Cathy had many coordination with others' work, she warned her not to take care of other people's affairs.

The purpose of Monica is very simple: it is to squeeze her away when Cathy is still in the trial period. As long as Cathy is in the company, the secret of Monica will be leaked, and she will not be steadfast for a day.

Clever Cathy has long seen Monica's difficulties in her own affairs, but she does not want to have any direct confrontation with Monica.

However, when Monica made another mistake to push her mistake on her head, a forbearance Cathy finally stopped her after work.

The two of them sat in an empty office, and the ghost Monica almost scarcely met Cathy's eyes. Cathy calmly said to her, "I feel that you seem to have some hostility towards me. I don't know if I feel right. If we don't live close together, maybe we will get along very well.

She paused and looked at the red tide growing on the Monica's face, and Cathy believed that these words had given her the reason that she knew it was always difficult.

Cathy went on to say: I just want to explain to you today: I am here to work, I am not interested in other things outside the work, including other people's privacy, hobbies and family. Even if I accidentally know someone else's private affairs, I just take it as an eye view.

When Monica saw a sigh of relief, Cathy changed his voice in a relaxed tone and continued, "like a wild flower on the roadside, though I saw it, I would never pick it up."

Monica did not say a word, but at last she said to Cathy gently, "shall we go to dinner together?"

Later they became good partners.

A year later, the man who finally divorced his wife tied up with Monica. The gift that Cathy sent them was a beautiful blanket that was embroidered with big and big peony flowers.

A heart to heart dialogue with a clear mind has solved the crisis of Cathy, and another example of how hard it is to deal with privacy is telling us how frustrating it is to do things without brains.

Li Jia, who worked as an office secretary, unwittingly discovered that salesman Judy secretly took out other people's customer information from the computer.

Li Jia told the story to Zhang Li, who had been dissatisfied with him, and also had a disagreement with Judy's face and heart. This was a small way to please Zhang Li, but Zhang Li was the boss's red man.

When Zhang Li mocking her client in a dispute with Judy, the Furious Judy immediately realized that this was what Li Jia said because Li Jia was only there at that time.

So in the future work, Judy often reported to the manager that Li Jia always had mistakes in his work: for example, he had made the wrong price list, faxed the fax promptly, and forgot to pass the message to the customer.

In such an annual salary adjustment, Li Jia did not catch up with the salary increase of up to 30%, while Zhang Li, though less satisfied with Li Jia after this incident, was more estranged from Li Jia.

Comment:

The success of Cathy's avoidance of privacy lies in the fact that she knows that in the small world where writing emphasizes personal, exclusive, complex and sensitive, learning to distinguish the boundaries between the public and the individual, between work and private affairs is a required course based on the workplace, and respecting the privacy of others is the best way to protect herself.

In the face of unfairness and difficulty, in the premise of forbearance has been lost, you may as well not be humble, clear to let the other party know your views and positions, and then go straight to your life, so that perhaps there will be "joy and happiness".

The self righteous Li Jia will be left with regret because she regards the secrets of her colleagues as a means to please others. It is a very ineffective act to exclude others, to gang up, to strike a party to please the other party. Zhang Li's failure to become Li Jia's "confidant" is the best proof.

    其实，把握好同事间和平、互助、有距关系的尺度，以宽容、平和的心对待别人的隐私，实际上是在为自己减少惹来不必要危险与烦恼的机会。真正八面玲珑的女人，是懂得“不要对别人的隐私抱有好奇心”这一道理的，要知道有些事只能点到为止。给自己也给他人留下一片自由呼吸的空间，不是很好吗？